So I've really had a come to Jesus moment right smack in the face Very Recently. I don't usually share about myself, but I think the best way to help others sometimes is to show that even I struggle with life sometimes.
For some reason, when people hear I am a therapist, they get this notion that I have it all together and all figured out and that everything is easy for me and my family. I don't know where people get that idea that therapists are perfect. The only perfect being I know of was Jesus, and I surely am not Jesus.
I want you to know the ugly truth...
I fail at things. Sometimes I fail HARD. I fail at taking care of myself. I fail at parenting. I fail at marriage. I fail at friendships. I even fail at work. And that's OK! Because I'm allowed to fail.
#1- I am human.
#2- I AM NOT JESUS.
#3- Failure leads to all the good stuff
The last couple of years, I have had some weird health issues pop up. And while some are not common, others are becoming more common in people my age. Why? Because we live in a world of constant activity and business. It's all relevant to self-care. I am an advocate to others in terms of self-care. I would like to think my practice is around empowering women, teens, and children to care for themselves. It's not just about listening for me. It's about knowing when you leave my office, you have a way to be gentler on yourself and healthier.
However, I have been failing at taking care of my own self. I got so wrapped up in things I wanted to do and began spiraling into a puddle of self-doubt as health issues arrived. My body has been telling me to slow down, and it has been trying to signal to me that I'm forgetting the most important thing. Me. I quit running consistently, quit eating clean, gained weight, lost progress I had made and all the while ran myself down trying to do too many things and overthinking every step I took. My parenting became lazy, my marriage became a little distant, and my house was missing attention.
But all it takes is a new day, a new sunrise and me saying I'm done with how things are going. It's time to put myself first again.
Do you ever find yourself losing this battle? I know you do, unless you are Jesus... Life is a marathon, not a sprint. There are hurdles and injuries and struggles to make it to your goal. But it is so worth it. If you find yourself in a losing battle right now, all I have to say is Learn from it, Forgive Yourself, and Move Forward because every day is a new day.
#1- I am Human!
#2- I am not Jesus!
#3- Failure leads to all the good stuff!
I am going to spend some time focusing on self-care and invite you to join me. Let me know in the comments where you are in your marathon of life. Are you struggling right now? Maybe I can help coach you along.